You never touched her so she felt close to you on a physical level. You never flirted with her to make her feel desirable or aroused. She may have had an interest in you initially but you never encouraged those feeling to grow. When you try to make a move and profess your feelings, she doesn’t return that interest. You wait until you can’t take it anymore and/or she starts seeing someone else. You may even give her gifts and pay for special outings.Īnd throughout all this, you’re waiting for her to finally recognize your romantic potential. You’re the first to offer help when she needs it, especially when dealing with other “asshole” guys. You’re emotionally supportive and listen to her vent for hours. They then expect girls to eventually realize how awesome they are. And despite that, men STILL try to start connections by being platonic and avoid flirting. You Pretend You Want Friendship And Don’t Show Sexual InterestĪs I said above, it’s extremely rare to “friend” your way into romance. So guys, if you always end up as a friend when you really want more, it’s probably because… 1. That’s how we educate people in every other aspect of life. You should teach what works for most situations and then adjust if they’re dealing with special circumstances. Why would you lead with advice that works for the minority? It’s statistically the least helpful fix and just bad advice. “Usually, the male starts the courtship, and the female chooses to either mate or reject the male based on his ‘performance’… Animal courtship may involve complicated dances or touch, vocalizations, or displays of beauty or fighting prowess.”įor men who struggle with romance, your first instinct shouldn’t be to tell them to keep doing what they’re doing. In the animal kingdom, almost every species has a courtship ritual in which males show their best selves to the females. Most men, though, need to demonstrate ACTIVE attractiveness to jumpstart their connections. If a guy has massive amounts of PASSIVE attractiveness like physical looks, wealth, power, or social status - that can showcase those desirable qualities in itself. Women have to FEEL the qualities that turn them on to a man. The majority of women select men based on these qualities. It’s hardwired into biology.Īttraction is an emotional response. These qualities tend to be: assertiveness, grit, sexuality, and confidence. I’ve seen it thousands of times in the last 15 years. The Qualities That Attract Womenįor thousands of years women have been attracted to guys with certain qualities. So while maybe all you need is a kind guy who listens well for you to like him - you are in the minority. I want other men to appreciate that, too.īut I also recognize patterns. I fully recognize and respect your uniqueness. They may even take it as a sexist remark. They think that I’m ignoring individuality and preferences. Those guys struggle endlessly to build romantic connections. They keep trying to “friend” their way into romance and never flirt, often due to the advice of their female friends. People try to argue it’s not that cut and dry…but it is. I know this as true even without hearing your story. But that’s rarely enough to have women desire intimacy with you. That all builds rapport, trust, and comfort within a connection. You wait patiently until a girl’s comfortable with you. You may be sweet and have engaging conversations. It’s Called The “Friend Zone” For A Reason
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